Ines Ohhhhhhh!!!! It was taking a while but they called bingo!

Remember, her parents are in BDSM, hence it's not impossible

      Laura I agreed because I was a bit fascinated by living chaste, but I didn't think it would be so difficult for me. Once masturbation was not a particularly high value for me, only the lack of it made me realize how much I want it.

          Laura Remember, her parents are in BDSM, hence it's not impossible

          Not impossible that they had them on hand in the first place, but using them on their daughter? shudders

              Ines Bears and their cubs do not interrupt their hibernation while nursing.

              I don't understand your logic @Ines. You question truthfulness of what I write just because I mentioned mitts. Really, it's not a drastic measure - wearing them didn't cause me much discomfort, especially since I wore them only at night to sleep. My parents have a lot of 'toys' and if my mother wanted, she could punish me much more severely.

                  youdontknowme I suspect they consider her chastity belt as another BDSM item

                  Sabina My parents have a lot of 'toys' and if my mother wanted, she could punish me much more severely.

                  But chastity items

                        Laura What was your mom's rationale?

                        Rationale is simple. In terms of virginity - my mother doesn't really want me to get pregnant before graduation (so I will wear the belt for at least 2 more years) or waste time and energy on closer relationships with boys. Of course, there is such a thing as contraception, but my mother has very limited confidence in it for personal reasons - her sister got pregnant despite using it. As for masturbation. Mom believes that masturbation is an immature, incomplete form of gratification. That's why it was forbidden for my father in the first place, and - since I choose to wear the belt - it is also forbidden for me, at least officially.

                        Laura I suspect they consider her chastity belt as another BDSM item

                        For them, the belt is just a BDSM toy, but it may have additional uses depending on the context. For me too.

                              Sabina Before I start wearing belt 'permanently' Mum warn me, that it will be full chastity, and masturbation will be forbiden. I agreed, but sometimes I regret it 😉

                              well, she forbids masturbation but has no real option to enforce it, seems kind of unserious to me. somehow i think it's all about control your mother likes to have and you like to be controlled by her right?
                              somehow you are doing exactly what some here have accused me of, you seem to be living in a BDSM relationship with your mother

                                  Sabina I was stupid and admitted to my mother that I had struggled with the belt at night and tried to get my fingers under it (it worked, but I couldn't masturbate). As punishment, I spent every night in locked bondage mitts for a month.

                                  Instead thighbands, that should be used in this case.

                                  Sabina I agreed because I was a bit fascinated by living chaste, but I didn't think it would be so difficult for me.

                                  Understood. I had no choice either.

                                  Sabina For them, the belt is just a BDSM toy, but it may have additional uses depending on the context. For me too.

                                  That's the problem. Chastity should be stricter than BDSM.
                                  For what I'm reading you have high risk even of intercourse, not only masturbation.
                                  Let me give some recommendations

                                  1. Your keys must be kept in safe you don't have an access to. Without exceptions
                                  2. If you need to have the belt off, for example, for court, you must establish procedure of taking off and putting on the belt. Your mom might drop-off before and pick up in your court day. You must not be alone without the belt outside.
                                  3. Obtain a high security belt that couldn't be cut by a pair of scissors.
                                  4. Use only chastity accessories for punishment.

                                          Angelina well, she forbids masturbation but has no real option to enforce it, seems kind of unserious to me. somehow i think it's all about control your mother likes to have and you like to be controlled by her right?

                                          You could say.

                                          Angelina somehow you are doing exactly what some here have accused me of, you seem to be living in a BDSM relationship with your mother

                                          Seeing the intensity of the BDSM relationship between my parents, I would never call my relationship with my mother that, but I understand that it can give that impression.

                                                Renita Instead thighbands, that should be used in this case.

                                                I didn't have thighbands, mitts were immediately available, hence the choice of my mother.

                                                Renita Chastity should be stricter than BDSM.

                                                Thank you for advices, but at times my chastity is even too strict for me, so I don't want nothing stricter... 🙂

                                                      Sabina You could say.

                                                      is not a real answer to my question. your mother says absolute chastity, so no masturbation but can't find a way to enforce it because of your appointments (i think professionally), so why is she forbidding it then?

                                                          Sabina I didn't have thighbands

                                                          Then they should be orders. Better than mitts anyway.

                                                          Sabina but at times my chastity is even too strict for me

                                                          Come on. You basically wear your belt whenever you want and have no problem to get rid of it.

                                                          Sabina so I don't want nothing stricter...

                                                          May I ask you if you are dating anyone?

                                                                  Angelina I just confirmed that your argument is correct, because I took your question as purely rhetorical. I translated it with a translator, so it may not give the full meaning of my words in Polish.

                                                                  The prohibition itself and the severity of its enforcement are sometimes two different things. I have the impression that my mother also wanted a certain consistency of rules and the lack of additional permissions for me.

                                                                      Renita Then they should be orders. Better than mitts anyway.

                                                                      I have never worn thighbands, but from what I read they are not comfortable. The mitts were quite bearable for sleeping, the problem appeared only when I had to blow my nose and I couldn't grab anything normally 😉

                                                                      Renita You basically wear your belt whenever you want and have no problem to get rid of it.

                                                                      And I want it to stay that way.

                                                                      Renita May I ask you if you are dating anyone?

                                                                      No, I do not date anybody since I start wearing belt 'seriously'.

                                                                              youdontknowme Not impossible that they had them on hand in the first place, but using them on their daughter? shudders

                                                                              Maybe I'm dumb, but I don't understand something here. Do you allow drastic interference with sexual freedom by wearing chastity belts and at the same time you are outraged by a mild form of restraint? (similar measures are used even in children with skin diseases so that they do not scratch).

                                                                                  Renita Instead thighbands, that should be used in this case.

                                                                                  Exactly, I think the same.

                                                                                    Sabina Do you allow drastic interference with sexual freedom by wearing chastity belts

                                                                                    I do not support it, but I accept this under the premise of enthusiastic informed consent, provided the consideration of its potential use as a sex toy never played a significant role.

                                                                                    My objection to the mittens is that they were imposed as a punishment (keyholder's impetus plus power dynamic casts doubt on consent) and that they were probably taken straight from a sex toy collection.

                                                                                    I am also not a fan of things like thigh bands, which to me seem like they have a significant mobility impact for a relatively limited performance improvement in their stated purpose.