Laura My parents insists on it. No penetration and intact hymen

Haven't you ever been on a waterslide?! 😖
Water skiing? Horse riding? I guess I was a bit of a tomboy growing up, I would try to keep up with my older brothers and my god I think I lost mine in a million different ways. I don't even remember having one tbh.

Ines I have never succumbed to the desire for an orgasm

Woah! Just woah!! You and I are very different people. 😁 Do you walk around with twitchy eyes?

        Ines Thank you for that detailed answer. I was happy to read your last sentence. As a somewhat religious person I would follow what I believe is God's teaching and not judge your sister.

        • Sin replied to this.

            Ines is much more important, for example , that I have never succumbed to the desire for an orgasm that my hymen.

            I agree.

            I think physical virginity it way less important than emotional one.

            I would add to possible way to break hymen while not doing anything sexual:horse riding and gymnastics.

              Avery I see, I wonder whether these attitudes are based on religion or culture or what

              Mostly family tradition

              Sin I don't even remember having one tbh.

              Have you ever seen a gyn?

                    Laura

                    Laura Mostly family tradition

                    Thanks. I do seek to understand this better.

                        Laura yes.
                        I remember what happened (wakeboarding 😖), but I mean I don't really remember what it was like prior to that, and I never really considered it as something I "lost" at that particular point in time. I certainly don't consider it anything even remotely sexual. It was just another sporting injury (of which there were lots!).

                        For my parents it's not the physical state of having a hymen in place that's important, it's your actions and behaviour.

                            Avery I was happy to read your last sentence. As a somewhat religious person I would follow what I believe is God's teaching

                            My understanding of religion is that it's what's in your heart that matters, not between your legs. 🙂

                                Sin I think if you follow "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" you're golden. Think of a world where everybody did that.

                                Separately, watching American football right now the Philadelphia Eagles kicker is a guy named Arryn Siposs who was born in Melbourne, Australia. Once played for the Dandenong Victoria Stingrays

                                • Sin replied to this.

                                    Avery I think if you follow "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" you're golden. Think of a world where everybody did that.

                                    Good call. :-)
                                    I know nothing about Australian football let alone American football! I'm from the other side of the country. The only stingrays we have are likely to kill you!

                                      This thread has reminded me of something I've wondered about.
                                      What is the purpose of a hymen? I'm not religious so 'It's God's way of helping to keep you pure' type answers mean nothing to me, but does a hymen have a practical function? Is it a leftover feature like the coccyx? Perhaps @Foxies can enlighten us?

                                        Tonyand03 What is the purpose of a hymen?

                                        It's just cling wrap for your vagina to keep things smelling nice and fresh. Once you pop it it's like BAM! Fish guts forever. 😁

                                            Sin Not sure I'm TOTALLY convinced, but it's certainly a very eloquent explanation.

                                                Tonyand03

                                                There is not a distinct purpose, it is a matter of debate still now.
                                                Ancient people believed it was all magic and stuff, then religious people believed some stuff which was copied from that (like all religions, just the adaptation of ancient superstitions).
                                                Some girls have it, some do not, some notice when it goes, some do not.

                                                It is like giving power and a mythology to an appendix with no purpose whatsoever because "people told you so".

                                                Behavior over physical form all the way.

                                                    It's there to help guys keep an accurate count of how many virgins they've deflowered.

                                                      Avery

                                                      I have not read all the answers and frankly it took me three times to understand the question. 😂

                                                      from a purely physical point of view, this person is no longer a virgin, but perhaps it is possible to have the hymen restored at the cost of health insurance, at least if one attaches importance to it. from a psychological point of view, this girl is of course still a virgin, it is not her fault that her virginity was taken from her by force.

                                                      I think couples should talk openly with each other, especially if it is very important to one partner that the girl is still a virgin, as I said, maybe this can be restored.

                                                      I hope I have understood the question correctly

                                                          Tonyand03

                                                          Thanks for thinking of me as some sort of oracle on this. 😀

                                                          Alas, I am afraid I am as in the dark as all of you. I have read several theories (such as it can help keep bacteria our which might convey some evolutionary advantage to the human female) but none are very convincing to me. The jury is still out so far as I know in the scientific communities.

                                                              Foxies Thanks for that, Foxies. Maybe it really is God's way of helping to keep you pure.