Angelina Jonas

I think in general you are doing well and you always find ways to deal with your addictions (like masturbation with chastity). keep doing what you are doing and you will become completely happy, but also frustrated.

Thanks for this @Angelina, I really, really, appreciate the time you've put into understanding me.

My wife says to you: "Yeah, it turns out that this was the best thing for him, and I don't mean that in a horrible way, it just puts his focus onto positive things that improve his health and life".

Google defines "Frustrate" as "to Prevent (a plan or attempted action) from progressing, succeeding, or being fulfilled". Since I am doing everything I can to stop to unhealthy actions that I find pleasurable, (smoking, masturbation, hours on the PC etc). I think I am always going to feel frustrated. But frustrating and curbing my unhealthy desires and excessive behaviours is the point.

      Angelina of course, if our parents think sexual pleasure is bad for us, then the supervised showers are also part of that concern.

      Hopeless.

        Alright I’m back to talk about how my bf meeting my mom went.

        When he came over I opened the door for him and then we went into the kitchen where my mom was cooking the dinner. They greeted eachother and then we went into my room to hang out.

        After a while dinner was ready and I knew the tough conversation was coming now and I was hoping for the best, we sat down and talked about my bf most of the time my mom asked him many questions about his hobbies work family things like that. Then she asked what he thought about the belt and if he wants it off. He said that he thinks it’s weird that she has me in it and that he wants it off ASAP even if he thinks it’s sexy. (He told me he thought that later not infront of my mom) after that it was just normal conversation and they seemed to get along well. Nobody said anything bad and my mom said she thought he was a good choice and that he will do.

        And that’s basically it 🙂

          Funguy He said that he thinks it’s weird that she has me in it and that he wants it off ASAP

          And what did she answer?

              Funguy even if he thinks it’s sexy. (He told me he thought that later not infront of my mom)

              Good thing you clatified, I thought it was a little... bold... of him to bring that up.

                  Funguy Nobody said anything bad and my mom said she thought he was a good choice and that he will do.

                  If you remember your fist time at the forum you got the advice to stand to your opinion and refuse the CB. From your posting I get now the impression your mother accepts you as you are and see no further need to keep you in.
                  Your fears were groundless.

                      Funguy she thought he was a good choice and that he will do.

                      😃 Am so happy to read this. What a wonderful thing. Am so glad to read it went so well.

                      Funguy he thinks it’s sexy.

                      Chastity *is* sexy!!

                            Laura

                            She said she understands that but that it’s best for me to be locked up

                                Joh

                                Well she still wants me locked until marriage but now I know that I’ll get the key once I’m married.

                                    Jonas

                                    Jonas 😃 Am so happy to read this. What a wonderful thing. Am so glad to read it went so well.

                                    Yeah I’m really happy with how it went too 🙂 i feel much better knowing I’ll be out once I’m married which will be soon hopefully

                                    Jonas Chastity is sexy!!

                                    Hahaha you could say that

                                            Funguy I’ll get the key once I’m married

                                            Funguy he thinks it’s sexy

                                            Jonas Chastity is sexy!!

                                            Funguy Hahaha you could say that

                                            Hope your experience under your mother's lock and key did not ruin your acveptance of the device too much. Maybe it is not you who ends up with the key, but your future husband.

                                                      Funguy it’s best for me to be locked up

                                                      To prevent random straight sex?

                                                          Laura

                                                          LOL. Yes, what is she afraid of? That you'll make your boyfriend pregnant? 🤰

                                                              youdontknowme I would even doubt most of the supervised showers mentioned on this forum involve someone constantly staring at the person in the shower,

                                                              of course not, in most cases my father sits on the toilet lid and looks more at his smartphone than at me. it's not like being in prison

                                                              Jonas Thanks for this @Angelina, I really, really, appreciate the time you've put into understanding me.

                                                              of course i understand you, i have learned a lot about voluntary chastity here and of course i understand what it means to be sexually frustrated. i think the important thing is that you don't forget the big goal and that your wife supports you. 🙂

                                                              Funguy

                                                              that sounds good, very good even. you see, you don't have to worry too much. i am really happy for both of you. 🙂

                                                                    youdontknowme Maybe it is not you who ends up with the key, but your future husband.

                                                                    The key would indeed make an amazing wedding gift, but not from his mother, from @Funguy to his husband.

                                                                        Funguy Yeah I’m really happy with how it went too 🙂

                                                                        It really couldn't have gone much better!! 😁

                                                                        The fact the belt came up in conversation sounds more than a little embarrassing though! Did the reason for the belt come up too? 😳 Or, I forget, does your bf already know your mother's reasons? 😅

                                                                            Jonas The key would indeed make an amazing wedding gift, but not from his mother, from @Funguy to his husband.

                                                                            I figured it would be more of a three-way meeting between the mother, the wearer and the partner where they make that decision together, some time during wedding preparations. In a fictional world where chastity is more commonplace, I might imagine the key being handed along with the rings from the parents to the best man to the wearer and finally to their partner, but that would be kind of impractical in reality, where most of the wedding party is unlikely to know about your chastity arrangement.

                                                                              Jonas Serious use is one of the things that make this forum unique.

                                                                              I think so,too.

                                                                              Jonas the quicker you stop fighting it.

                                                                              I still fight mine a lot...

                                                                              Jonas Nothing worse than a belt that keeps orgasm out of reach but seemingly attainable.

                                                                              More frustrating,yes.

                                                                              Jonas That's where internet filters come in. I can and will have to ask my wife for limits to be set on this website. The topic just interests me too much. Lol.

                                                                              How long would you be allowed?

                                                                              Angelina right, mostly it is a form of stubbornness, but no ill will

                                                                              I agree.

                                                                              youdontknowme that is why I like chastity devices as a sort of "are you sure" prompt.

                                                                              Only if you are your own keyholder.

                                                                              Avery

                                                                              Mainly to be sure I don't cheat during it.

                                                                              youdontknowme I do not think that, outside of fetish couples, anyone is supervising showers for the viewer's gratification.

                                                                              I agree.

                                                                              youdontknowme I would even doubt most of the supervised showers mentioned on this forum involve someone constantly staring at the person in the shower, more like staying in the room and casting a quick glance at unpredictable interviews to make sure nobody is abusing their hygiene break.

                                                                              Yes,even if more watched when I shower/dry the part which are generally under my chastity belt...

                                                                              Funguy

                                                                              Good it went well!🙂

                                                                              It is similar to the "approval talk" with my parents when I wanted to date a potential boyfriend/girlfriend,except they told me if they approved him/her only after he/she left.

                                                                              Jonas Chastity is sexy!!

                                                                              🤣

                                                                              Funguy now I know that I’ll get the key once I’m married.

                                                                              Good to be sure of it,now.

                                                                              youdontknowme Maybe it is not you who ends up with the key, but your future husband.

                                                                              It would not be bad.

                                                                              I would find somehow romantic,if,at my wedding,Emilie get the key to my chastity belt,and I get the key to Emilie's chastity belt(we plan to both wear it during our wedding).