Been gone a while

Jonas Serious use is one of the things that make this forum unique.

I think so,too.

Jonas the quicker you stop fighting it.

I still fight mine a lot...

Jonas Nothing worse than a belt that keeps orgasm out of reach but seemingly attainable.

More frustrating,yes.

Jonas That's where internet filters come in. I can and will have to ask my wife for limits to be set on this website. The topic just interests me too much. Lol.

How long would you be allowed?

Angelina right, mostly it is a form of stubbornness, but no ill will

I agree.

youdontknowme that is why I like chastity devices as a sort of "are you sure" prompt.

Only if you are your own keyholder.

Avery

Mainly to be sure I don't cheat during it.

youdontknowme I do not think that, outside of fetish couples, anyone is supervising showers for the viewer's gratification.

I agree.

youdontknowme I would even doubt most of the supervised showers mentioned on this forum involve someone constantly staring at the person in the shower, more like staying in the room and casting a quick glance at unpredictable interviews to make sure nobody is abusing their hygiene break.

Yes,even if more watched when I shower/dry the part which are generally under my chastity belt...

Funguy

Good it went well!

It is similar to the "approval talk" with my parents when I wanted to date a potential boyfriend/girlfriend,except they told me if they approved him/her only after he/she left.

Jonas Chastity is sexy!!

Funguy now I know that I’ll get the key once I’m married.

Good to be sure of it,now.

youdontknowme Maybe it is not you who ends up with the key, but your future husband.

It would not be bad.

I would find somehow romantic,if,at my wedding,Emilie get the key to my chastity belt,and I get the key to Emilie's chastity belt(we plan to both wear it during our wedding).

Vanessa How long would you be allowed?

A half hour I guess, but that would be for all social media.

Funguy To prevent masturbation actually

But since you have a partner now it doesn't make sense anymore

Funguy Haha yeah it was embarrassing but not unexpected, she didn’t bring up the reason but he already knows.

Funguy That would be quite the gift

Well, if you do ever find yourself falling into old habits, you'll know what to do!

Funguy but he already knows.

Funguy To prevent masturbation actually

Funguy If he does get the key I’m sure the belt will come off very fast, but I’m not against having it as a toy but I don’t think I’ll go into long term wear anytime soon

If he knows you are such a compulsive masturbator that you need a chastity belt to keep you in check, who is to say it will not go back on as fast as it came off . Especially if he seems to find your belt quite hot, he might enjoy being your only source of relief.

That said, that would not be for him alone to decide, such things need to be consensual. But considering you are kept belted until you marry, he seems to have the better bargaining position.

Jonas The key would indeed make an amazing wedding gift, but not from his mother, from @Funguy to his husband.

I think either way it is a (symbolic) transfer of power to his husband. If they want an equal relationship, I'm not sure that such a symbolic gesture is quite fitting on their wedding day, even though it would be a romantic one. (Unless the boyfriend also wears a chastity device for the wedding, and the exchange of keys is mutual, like Vanessa is considering.)

Angelina that sounds very romantic but before you ask no, that is no longer possible for us, we have sold camryn's belt in the meantime.

As a fan of the idea of mutual chastity relationships, I definitely approve of that as well.

carg I think either way it is a (symbolic) transfer of power to his husband. If they want an equal relationship, I'm not sure that such a symbolic gesture is quite fitting on their wedding day, even though it would be a romantic one.

Yeah, the fact that it might cement an inequality may be a concern.

youdontknowme As a fan of the idea of mutual chastity relationships,

What aspects of mutual chastity do you approve of may I ask?

Jonas Mostly how it involves chastity in a couple's dynamic without creating a hierarchy. Dom/sub relationships with the submissive locked and the dominant free are all pretty much everywhere in the more fetishistic chastity communities, but mutual chastity arrangements are quite different from that. They retain the whole "physically secured monogamy" aspect, but they subvert the expectation that a keyholder always exerts some form of power over a wearer.

Jonas Will half an hour be enough?

not for me, it usually takes me at least an hour, but for that i am not active in any other social media except here and facebook, so i can concentrate entirely on the forum

youdontknowme

i don't think the concept is bad, but i find it very difficult. i once wrote here that i tried to become my girlfriend's keyholder (full story at should i become a keyholder?) and i have to say it is difficult to stay strong as a keyholder even though you know exactly what the other person wants. i struggled with frustration myself one night and had to refuse to free my girlfriend even though she was struggling too. that was very difficult.

Angelina i struggled with frustration myself one night and had to refuse to free my girlfriend even though she was struggling too.

The great thing in a mutual arrangement is that if you are both in the mood, you can just let each other out. And if only one person is in the mood... tough luck for that person. With self-relief not an option, the best thing they can do is to try getting their partner in the mood.

I am not talking about mutual keyholding for people who are supposed to stay away from sex completely. Obviously, that is doomed to fail, especially if the partners are attracted to each other. I am talking about mutual keyholding in a couple where sex is perfectly fine, as long as it is with each other. Where flirting with strangers will not inspire jealousy because at the end of the day, the partner knows it will never go beyond a little tease. Where the partner is, directly or indirectly, involved in every relief you get, even the one by your own hand.

youdontknowme That's all really interesting. Although I need my other half to be tough with me in certain problem areas, we don't have a dom/sub relationship. I'm not exactly how equality continues while the belt imposes such an imbalance but it does.

The way you put it, mutual chastity sounds like a really interesting concept, though as @Angelina points out it must be difficult to stay strong. It must be hard not to come up with deals and excuses and all kinds of other insecure ideas!

Jonas I'm not exactly how equality continues while the belt imposes such an imbalance but it does.

I think that may be because you are not kept chaste at your keyholder's whim, but you have very specific terms that you both agreed to, she upholds those and most of her discretion is in interpretations. So "you get to cum if you do X/Y/Z for me, or if I feel like it" is not a part of your dynamic.