Vanessa When do you think you would have enough money to live on your own?

I am not sure yet, especially with covid uncertainty

Vanessa Do you think she may ask you to continue wearing it?

I hope not!!!

Vanessa Technically,he had already met her during the holidays,right?

Yes but only in passing, it is 'formal now'

Angelina yes, admittedly it is not very long, but they seem to be very much in love and it would help her to be able to escape from the equipment at least for the time being

It is only te start of the relationship and we are not ready yet for that

            Angelina but she tries everything so that you don't live with her longer than necessary.

            Well, if she pays my rent she will also require the belt.

                saras It is only te start of the relationship and we are not ready yet for that

                Take your time. To jump in a relation only to get out of the belt is not a good reason.

                  12 days later

                  saras It is only te start of the relationship and we are not ready yet for that

                  that's ok of course, a relationship has to develop first, but over a longer period of time you should consider this as an alternative.

                  Christine Well, if she pays my rent she will also require the belt.

                  i rather meant that she might be able to support you professionally in some way. maybe there is a job in her company that you can do to earn your own money

                        Angelina i rather meant that she might be able to support you professionally in some way. maybe there is a job in her company that you can do to earn your own money

                        She does in that sense.

                            Christine She does in that sense.

                            what do you mean by "in this sense"? if you have a job, you should look for your own flat

                                5 days later

                                Angelina what do you mean by "in this sense"?

                                She helps me to organize my life, like find a job, etc.

                                Angelina if you have a job, you should look for your own flat

                                Not enough.

                                      Christine She helps me to organize my life, like find a job, etc.

                                      Christine Not enough.

                                      so she helped you to find a job that pays badly so you don't have enough money to move out? then keep the job but continue to search for a better one on the side. you can put your current job as a reference.

                                            Angelina so she helped you to find a job that pays badly so you don't have enough money to move out? then keep the job but continue to search for a better one on the side. you can put your current job as a reference

                                            I honestly don’t get Christine. I am not sure she really wants help or to be unbelted.

                                                  James

                                                  it is similar to @Helen and @Renita, she usually writes very short answers, which would not be a problem if they were clear, but this makes it difficult. but i will still try to help if possible. 🙂

                                                    James I am not sure she really wants help or to be unbelted.

                                                    She wants to move out

                                                      7 days later

                                                      Christine To be unbelted.

                                                      the deal was that you wear the belt as long as you need her help, she should help you not to need her help anymore, then you don't have to wear the belt anymore either

                                                          Angelina she should help you not to need her help anymore, then you don't have to wear the belt anymore either

                                                          She wants me to keep wearing the belt even if I don't depend on her. Ofc I'm not going to.

                                                              Christine

                                                              but that wasn't what was meant at the beginning, was it? wasn't the whole thing meant that you wear the belt because you are dependent on her? so the logical consequence must be that you don't wear the belt anymore when you are independent again, right?

                                                                  Angelina wasn't the whole thing meant that you wear the belt because you are dependent on her?

                                                                  I don't have a choice but wear it coz I'm dependent on her. But she wants me to wear it coz I'm single again.

                                                                  Angelina so the logical consequence must be that you don't wear the belt anymore when you are independent again, right?

                                                                  Right, and I will not.

                                                                        Christine I don't have a choice but wear it coz I'm dependent on her. But she wants me to wear it coz I'm single again.

                                                                        i admit that at this point i can help only poorly. the question is, of course, if you were no longer dependent on her, whether she could still make you continue to wear the belt. you should urgently become an independent single woman.