Angelina this is exactly what my father gives as a reason why a married woman should not wear a cb

I can understand his opinion.

Angelina a hard rule but understandable. this rule promotes good behavior, even if it is difficult I would support the rule, but not the punishments

Yes,I didn't like it a lot(especially when I got older),but I knew it was not a good idea to rebel willingly against it by leaving the table without asking...But I understood why.

Sara2001 I can accept strict leadership as long as it is out of love.

It is necessary.

Sara2001 I think it's very common in this kind of relationship.

I think it is very extreme in your case...

Sara2001 Yes, basically that's true but it has nothing to do with maturity. It doesn't matter if I would be able to decide all this on my own. He likes it to be in charge of these points and I happily accept it if it makes him happy and if he denies it only for good reasons.

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Sara2001 I suggest what I like, he could order whatever he sees fit, but he always ordered what I wanted.

It seems he likes to be allowed to tell you what you can do or can't do and expect you to obey him(or punish you if you don't,I guess),but generally agree to give you the freedom you asked for.If he always acts this way,no problem,but if he decide to be more strict and don't allow you what you asked,I think it would be way too strict.

Ines I think that improving in situation has to be giving more freedom to the girl, allowing us make more things, be more comfortable, trusting in us.

I feel a bit like you and @Angelina;having more important tasks to do is a pleasant sign of trust from my parents.

Angelina how did your school exams go ?

I would like to know it too.

                    Vanessa I think it is very extreme in your case...

                    If you search the internet you find a lot of women with more or less the same rules. Some are allowed to leave the house to go to predefined places like the grocery store, some are not allowed to leave the house without their husbands at all. Some have a little budget but have to collect recites, others have absolutely no access to money and you can continue this list with almost every rule I have. From what I can find on the internet, I am more or less in the middle and it could be a lot stricter.

                    Vanessa It seems he likes to be allowed to tell you what you can do or can't do and expect you to obey him(or punish you if you don't,I guess),but generally agree to give you the freedom you asked for.If he always acts this way,no problem,but if he decide to be more strict and don't allow you what you asked,I think it would be way too strict.

                    He normally only denies something for a good reason and from time to time to remind me that it is not only a formal thing, but this never happens when it has really drastic consequences.

                          Sara2001 I am more or less in the middle and it could be a lot stricter.

                          it's not about whether it could be stricter or not, but about whether you are still happy with this strictness. you can't compare something like that because every woman feels it differently, what is too strict for @Vanessa and me is ok for you, and what is too strict for you can be ok for other women 😉

                              Angelina I thought a lot about this point. I think I can accept many restrictions as long as I can still do what is important for me, like staying in contact with my friends and family, having some time for myself to relax and just do nothing, having time for my hobbies or just watch a movie I like from time to time. It's really not so much. As long as this is given I can accept even very strict rules as long as they are out of love. I don't need to be responsible for money or appointments or things like that. To be honest, I feel under good care of Daniel and since then I don't miss these advantages a lot. It was a bit different before I meet him, but nowadays I am very happy.

                                  Sara2001

                                  hmm i have thought a lot about it, especially about the point if you want to meet your friends. are you allowed to leave the house alone ? how is it if you meet friends of yours by chance and daniel doesn't know them, are you allowed to talk to your friends or do you need his permission ?

                                  I know I'm repeating myself, but I think you can make a contract about that too 😉

                                      Sara2001 From what I can find on the internet, I am more or less in the middle and it could be a lot stricter.

                                      Well,I guess so,it could be way stricter,even if it si still very strict,in my opinion.

                                      Sara2001 He normally only denies something for a good reason and from time to time to remind me that it is not only a formal thing, but this never happens when it has really drastic consequences.

                                      Good he doesn't do it for important things,but I don't feel it is very fair to refuse you to have a permission only to show you he can do it...I hope he wouldn't do it for long,only at the start.

                                      Sara2001

                                      I agree that if you can do it and that rules are done out of love,it can be manageable.I wouldn't like it,but I can understand you may be happy this way.

                                      Angelina hmm i have thought a lot about it, especially about the point if you want to meet your friends. are you allowed to leave the house alone ? how is it if you meet friends of yours by chance and daniel doesn't know them, are you allowed to talk to your friends or do you need his permission ?

                                      Good questions.

                                              Angelina are you allowed to leave the house alone ?

                                              Yes, I just have to ask permission.

                                              Angelina how is it if you meet friends of yours by chance and daniel doesn't know them,

                                              No problem. I can talk to anyone I want.

                                              Angelina do you need his permission ?

                                              Outside of his parents house I don't need a permission to talk.

                                              Angelina I know I'm repeating myself, but I think you can make a contract about that too 😉

                                              That's not how it is working for us because sometimes something doesn't need to be written down to be forbidden or allowed. It always depends on the situation and it is acceptable that this means a little risk for me because I can be sure that Daniel is strict but fair.

                                                        Sara2001 That's not how it is working for us because sometimes something doesn't need to be written down to be forbidden or allowed. It always depends on the situation and it is acceptable that this means a little risk for me because I can be sure that Daniel is strict but fair.

                                                        i see it completely different, every situation can be included in a contract as a rule with permission or punishment. you have a pretty complex relationship and i think it would be very useful. i think it's good that you trust daniel a lot that he is fair, but i think it's pretty shortsighted

                                                        concerning the other points, it seems to be strict but ok 😉

                                                            Angelina i think it would be very useful

                                                            I think it would destroy the relationship. It would end in discussion about paragraphs and details.

                                                            Daniel is in charge and sets my boundaries. It's not perfect but because I know his idea behind everything I can adapt this to any situation. I never had a situation where I felt unfairly punished for something I expected to be okay. At least after the lection I always agree that I should have known better, but that I don't realize anything before before the lecture is very, very rare. I am not sure it ever happened with Daniel only a few times with my father in 18 years.

                                                                Sara2001 I think it would destroy the relationship. It would end in discussion about paragraphs and details.

                                                                apparently this system does not work for you 🙁

                                                                if my discussions about contracts would destroy the relationship, then this person knows me too little

                                                                  Sara2001 Yes, I just have to ask permission.

                                                                  Still very restrictive.

                                                                  Sara2001 Outside of his parents house I don't need a permission to talk.

                                                                  Good you are mr efre to talk,generally!

                                                                  Angelina i see it completely different, every situation can be included in a contract as a rule with permission or punishment. you have a pretty complex relationship and i think it would be very useful. i think it's good that you trust daniel a lot that he is fair, but i think it's pretty shortsighted

                                                                  I think @Sara2001 is right.It would be way too complex and won't cover any situation,due to the big number of rules they use.Some guidelines are better,in this case,I think.

                                                                  Sara2001 I think it would destroy the relationship. It would end in discussion about paragraphs and details.

                                                                  I think too it would be hard to write it.

                                                                  Sara2001 that I don't realize anything before before the lecture is very, very rare

                                                                  Good.You could felt unfairly punished in such case.Even if,in my case too,not understanding how a rule apply to a situation well enough is not an excuse to avoid a punishment.

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                                                                              Laura

                                                                              good idea to bring up this old topic again, i think we will have new posts soon 😂

                                                                                  Laura hot weather where you’re at as well, I take it?

                                                                                  its approaching 36 degrees C in my area, so I’m sort of glad my wife unlocked me for the duration of our re-evaluation. The belt hasn’t been this uncomfortable to wear for two summers.

                                                                                      Laura

                                                                                      Generally,more than 30°C in France too,presently.

                                                                                      I'm happy to be free of the chastity bra(even if wearing the chastity belt when it is hot is very unpleasant,too).

                                                                                          Laura I'm not bringing the old topic, but complaining 😂

                                                                                          😂

                                                                                          Vanessa

                                                                                          this week it has not been too warm about 25 degrees

                                                                                          but next week it will be hotter 🙁